Find yourself. Find your help. The book accomplishes 2 simple tasks. First, it identifies and discusses the primary barriers to collaboration. Second, it provides the methods for overcoming the barriers. The difference is that it takes the discussion deep into the system of deception, self-deception, role and identity confusion, guilt, shame, and adult development in response to the Parental Obligation.
The barriers encountered are called the 5 D-Lays: Dissonance, Defenses, Deceptions, Distractions, Disillusionment. They Delay your success and ours. The solution to overcoming is to address the narrative that has you reacting with D-Lays. This work differs because of its foundation in research on Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACE Response Strategies, Social Agency, and Solution Focused Brief Intervention.
We don’t know ourselves or focus on what we think are negatives about ourselves (shame). We don’t trust ourselves (suppression). We don’t know the other (role confusion). We don’t trust the other (isolation). We are a bunch of islands attempting to convince ourselves that we are “family,” and therefore “family” has come to mean something less than people who are willing to give their all to establish your success.