MAWMonday Motivators 11/20/2016

mindddddThis week, I’m preoccupied with the power of the mind. I am overwhelmed with how trauma keeps many from experiencing abundant lives. Resilience for many is a risk to adopt an unfamiliar choice. Even though their familiar choice is harmful, it presents a clear and comfortable role. The good news is that you can overcome. If you have been the victim, you can adopt the role of survivor. If you have been sheltered and naive, you can adopt the role of learner. You can make sustainable choices as you change your mindset. Your recover begins with recognition of your mind powers.

This week, I engage Twitter in order to explore your mind and its power. I illuminate some common knowledge, and expand for some real life application. Be motivated, and activate your power to maintain that motivation and your productivity.

1. Infinite Mind
It all begins in your mind. Many don’t think about the origins of their ideas, whether motivating or defeating. When did you start to think that you were not enough? When did you break the cycle of self-doubt and believe that other options exists? What are the protective structures that keep you powerless?

Aging into adulthood offers an opportunity to develop constructs that extend outside of those your parents presented to you. Moving out of those conceptions, even restrictive and inconsistent ones, can be be difficult because they have worked to keep you relatively safe.

The best example is the horse that is tied to a post. The horse could easily pull away, but its training keeps it close to the post. The power of the mind is that the horse, like you, does not seem to realize that another option is even available. My wish for you is that you use that amazing power to see new opportunities, new processes, and new possibilities. The same power that can blind you is the same power that can give you infinite sight.

2. Programmed Mind
Consider that your mind is a high-value computer. What you have put in, accepted as truth, and practiced as pathway is programming code to be executed in the decisions of daily life. What have you programmed your mind to process reactively without examination? When did you adopt your current default settings? What unsustainable processes would have to be overcome in order to run a new program?

It is just true that you can accomplish what you put your mind to. Beyond the physical, age, and other limitations that make this statement impossible are a world of options, mechanisms, and new inventions that can make it more true. The limitation is not inherent in the problem. The limitation is programmed into your mind. I wish you would override that programming, and look to innovate your current situation. Start with a change in expectation centered in your mind.

3. Peaceful Mind
My most troubling thought as a coach is people who excuse themselves from accountability stating that they are/were busy. “Busy doing what?” is always my reply. It is not “busy” to spend energy on lesser priorities. It is avoidance. If you are not engaging in what you have set as priority, you flirt with defensiveness and fallacies that distort your reality. The interesting fact I have found is that “busy” is the problem. You must replace “busy” with “peace.”

The orientation, prioritizing, engagement, evaluation, and maintenance of anything worth doing begins and continues with a sense of peace. Peace is part and parcel of good, kind, gentle, loving, temperate, patient, joyful activity. Peace is taking time throughout the day to return to center–to find your place of motivation and satisfaction. Rather than congratulating yourself for the busyness, count the returns of progress. Instead of all-or-nothing pursuits of “doing,” give time and space to multiple pursuits toward learning and being. Create balance and enjoy peace.

4. Lyf Mind
Love yourself first (LYF). Somewhere in an attempt to make ourselves more empathetic and less selfish, we adopted the idea that we should put others before ourselves. Yet, along the way, we forgot how to love ourselves. The point was never to push others ahead or wave them on. The goal was always to realize how interrelated our lives and destinies are with others. We were instructed to love the other as we love ourselves.

I am surprised no matter how many times I encounter it that beautiful, intelligent, powerful men and women are incapable or sheepish about speaking to their strengths, accomplishments, and value. How can you speak to, enjoy, and empathize with the beauty, intellect, and power of others if you have not explored and confirmed your own? Without the experience of your own love, your expression of another’s value is academic, shallow, and patronizing. I find that many are hurting because, without a model to compare to, they were unable to distinguish positive relationships from negative ones. They only applied the shallow tests of love–the ones that people can counterfeit. Learn to love yourself first. You can then recognize the energy of others, and distinguish between those who are partners and those who are pretenders.

5. Unbothered Mind
It will all work out for your good. This is an important aspect of peace, but it is an even more important aspect of mental health. Depression and anxiety seem to occur together with more frequency than I would have expected without research. But, it now seems obvious. Depression causes questions of worth, ability, and motivation. Inaction is a common result. Anxiety results when time continues to request outcomes. Anxiety also promotes a sense of urgency about the tasks at hand including answering questions asked by depression. It is a vicious cycle that overwhelms many and steals their time.

A diagnosis of depression and anxiety responds well to professional help along with medication in most instances. But, many of us suffer with the mental pattern outlined above without an affirmative diagnosis. We don’t fit the diagnosis parameters. We just know that we lose time stuck in our mental space, questioning and stressed.

The solution is back to the beginning of this motivator: It will all work out for your good. Start there! Release yourself from the responsibility to create, monitor, and maintain the outcomes before you have even put action in place. First trust that it is going to work out. Next, create your plan. After that, you can monitor your smart work and progress. Once you have results, organize and maintain those results looking to innovate and progress consistently. Each step requires its own mental space and process. Be unbothered by the next task while you focus on right now. The advanced skill is to address right now in an unbothered state as well. Enjoy the smart work of now as if enjoying results from the moment before.